Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Dear Friend-Turning-Forty

Many people in our circle of friends have officially joined the 40's Club, my own DH included.  (I am the baby of the bunch, but I am headed straight to the coveted club myself.)  A very close friend had asked family and close friends to write a keepsake letter for his wife's fortieth birthday; these letters were put into a memory book and given to her as a present.  Here is my letter to my dear friend of twenty (!) years. 

Dear Friend-Turning-Forty,

It’s no wonder that infants have milestones recorded in weeks and months, and that grown-ups have theirs marked by decades.  What’s exciting should be celebrated often: smiling, sitting, crawling, walking, eating solids, and talking, etc.  What’s not exciting should be reminded less often: losing brain cells, failing physical and mental agility, forgetting your own age (intentional or unintentional), slowing metabolism, sagging of skin and body parts, and graying of hair, etc.  

Those have nothing to do with you turning forty, of course.  

In our teens, we thought we knew everything, but were fools nonetheless.  In our twenties, we were hopeful and fearless, but broke and busy.  In our thirties, we somehow gained ourselves offspring(s) and mortgage(s) and became slaves to them.  I can’t quite say what our forties will bring just yet, but I suspect that it will be something entirely different and unexpected.  

But I’ll be sure to write what our forties brought us in the letter I write you when you turn fifty.

Today, I wore the hair clips I wore in your wedding.  Each time I see it, I think of you, and I think of our friendship for the past twenty-something years.  Even though we live far apart and only get to see each other once or twice a year, each time we meet, it’s as if time hasn’t passed.  What I treasure most from your friendship is your kind heart, your keen understanding, and your knowing smile.  

I look forward to many more decades of friendship with you.  Together, we will watch our children grow up, we will embrace what life has to offer us as we get older and wiser, and we will be there for each other as we reach the upcoming milestones of our lives.  

I suspect the next milestone will be our need for reading glasses.

Happy Big Fortieth Birthday, Friend!

With much love,
Me

6 comments:

  1. Oh that is an awesome letter - and what a great idea from the husband. I know what I'm stealing for my next friend's 40th. We won't count the friend turning 40 on Saturday, as I don't have enough time for that ;) LOVE the letter!

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  2. Michelle, Thanks! And it IS a great idea. For my DH's 30th bday, I made scrapbook for him, with real letters and photos. For his 40th, I solicited videos from friends to wish him a happy 40th. After all, one decade made the tech advance from paper to digital. My friend made his memory book digitally; it's beautiful, and you can view it and purchase it right on the internet. It's amazing how far we've come with technology and digital services. I can't keep up.

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  3. That's a nice letter. I've never heard of anyone doing this, but it's a great idea!

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    1. Thank you! It really is a treasured present. I still take out DH's 30th bday scrapbook and look at all the letters and photos family and friends sent. It's a nice walk down memory lane. Thank you for stopping by!

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  4. I've got a friend like that. We've known each other 44 years, since Jr High School. I never added up the years before just now and my jaw dropped. Life long friends do help us to get through those milestones and life in general. It's nice to know you've got one too.

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    1. Thanks for dropping by, Michael! I also didn't add up the years until I wrote this letter for my friend. Life long friends do help tremendously!

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