Dear Man Crush,
You are not a new concept in our home. My Dear Husband has had many of you over the years. It's just that he's in the middle of a new one so intense that he wants to live, sleep, and Drive his new you.
I came downstairs on a weekend afternoon to find DH watching a movie. Without looking up at me, he stated, as-a-matter-of-fact-ly, "I have a New Man. He's my new George Clooney." I immediately asked what he was watching, and got a little hysterical over his not telling me and watching it with me.
Drive is the movie. Ryan Gosling is the actor.
I asked if he had already gotten to THE elevator scene--a clip I had previous seen on the internet which helped bookmark the movie in my head--and he graciously started the movie over for me. I think he just wanted to see the first thirteen minutes again.
You see, over the years, DH has had a few major Man Crushes on celebrities. The earliest one I can recall is Pierce Brosnan from The Thomas Crown Affair. You can't deny the actor's debonair qualities against Rene Russo's catty and seductive role.
Then it was Brad Pitt from his role in Ocean's Eleven. Not only did DH drool over his wardrobe in that movie, he also drooled over the fact that only Brad Pitt can pull off a wardrobe like that.
Finally, since Ocean's Eleven and in the more recent years, it was George Clooney. He especially liked his role in Up in the Air. DH loves, loves, loves the scene called 'Bar Club Cards', where the actors pull out their reward cards to outrank each other's 'frequent-flyer status'. Only Clooney can pull off that suave throw-down with his charming, smirky grin.
One of the common themes of DH's man crushes is the actors' appeal through their choice of clothing. These guys are smooth, sharp, stylish, and hip. I think I mentioned 'refurbishing his outdated wardrobe' back in college, but I must say that since then, he's been quite the GQ man himself, all on his own. At the workplace, even administrative assistants make a remark or two about his attire. Sometimes they tease him about his color choices. To which he emphasizes, it's salmon, not pink. And he claims to 'just be' very in touch with his feminine side. Yup, with his pink button-down shirt and salmon-colored tie. I think he just wishes he were a metrosexual. But let's face it: he's your average suburban daddy with no extra spending money and too many old t-shirts and ripped cargo pants.
But he can keep wishing. Or live vicariously through his Man Crushes.
The first time we saw Ryan Gosling was in the 2004 movie, The Notebook, for which neither of us 'had a thing'. It was a classic chick flick. Nothing wrong with that. But then Gosling more recently was in the news for breaking up a street fight in NYC and saving a woman from being hit by a taxi. Millions of women got weak in the knees and swooned.
We (DH and I) were just a little late to the swooning, because we are perpetually catching up with the newest celebrity news and pop culture.
Only a few months ago did we watch the movies Crazy, Stupid, Love and Ides of March, both starring Gosling. The part of him in CSL where he took off his shirt actually made my lower jaw drop. His upper torso was so perfect that he looked photoshopped. Anyway, I liked him. I didn't love him, but that doesn't really matter. We're talking Man Crushes here. 'We' started to like Gosling more and more in these movies.
But it was Drive that made Gosling an official Man Crush for DH.
So back to the movie.
Ryan Gosling drives. He drives and listens to music.
There's romance and violence, but 'The Driver'--his character has no name--basically, drives. It's a character movie with plenty of haunting music that adds to the mood of driving, alone or with his girl, and with very little dialogue. The eyes, DH says of the characters, they speak with their eyes. He added animated commentary while I watched scenes of Carey Mulligan's character interact with The Driver--with their eyes.
I'll admit, I liked the movie. The shock value of violence has its place in the movie, I suppose, and definitely makes this a guy movie rather than just a chick flick. Gosling's robotic character really captures the quiet, solitary ambiance of the movie quite well.
That very night, DH bought the soundtrack and did his after-movie online research. This is where he found the materials to later fill me in on the whole movie spiel--from casting to director background; Gosling prepping for the movie by, um, driving; and Gosling's account of driving with the director one night to witness him pounding his knees crying, 'This is what the movie is all about!'--with unprecedented enthusiasm and fervor.
And I think I've heard the soundtrack about 253 times by now.
When I typed in 'man crush' to prepare for writing this post, Google actually automatically listed my query with 'ryan gosling' as one of the choices. Huh. First I saw lots of entries on Andrew Garfield admitting his man crush on Ryan Gosling. Then I found this awesome article, Why It's Not Gay to LOVE Ryan Gosling, Guys. It's hilarious, and I guess my DH is not alone.
On our most recent outing, DH got into the driver's seat and turned on the soundtrack to Drive. The song 'Nightcall' (song in video above) started playing. He looked at me with his
And just like that, he had me muted. Because, one, I didn't have a quick, clever comeback for him, and two, I didn't want to acknowledge his
Now perhaps you will indulge me and watch and listen to this song, 'Real Hero', from the movie, and you can see all those driving scenes and how they speak with their eyes. (This particular video could not be embedded, so you will have to click over yourself.)
So, Man Crush, you are a topic of discussion that--between DH and myself--I find quite humorous and
Except for the impersonations. I can do without those.