Tuesday, May 7, 2013

Dear 40s Club


Dear 40s Club,

I became an official member yesterday, joining most of my friends who have been eagerly waiting for me to be a part of you.  I had planned on walking through your welcoming front doors with my head held high, but who knew that my entrance was going to be as inglorious and dishonorable as walking into school detention. 

A few days before the Big Day, I felt a tickle in my throat.  But since all the celebration was going to be on the weekend, I told my immune system to kick into high gear and "deal" with it.  I subbed on Friday, and was more tired than usual at the end of the day.  On Saturday, Dear Husband had planned a big day for us.  We had a Date Afternoon (another five kiddos-free hours!) going downtown to see the highly acclaimed and Tony Award-winning musical, The Book of Mormon.  Then we had dinner with family and BFF's family at a lovely little French bistro.  The day ended (very late) with a few hours of prepping for my Chinese class.  I got through Sunday with my leukocytes and phagocytes working overtime.  Come Monday, they retired and handed their job to my T cells and lymphocytes.  And I spent the bulk of my 40th birthday on the couch, like so. 

Sort of anti-climatic, wouldn't you say?  Good thing we got the celebratin' in before the birthday gal fell apart!

On the way downtown, DH asked me if I felt like I'm 40.  Well, yes and no.  I used to think--back when I was still in single digits in age--that people in their forties were old as dirt.  I thought that once the thirties were over, one is practically a senior citizen.  Thankfully, I don't feel that old yet.  They keeping saying that 40 is the new 30, and anyone who's 40 will take that--no questions asked. 

But the yes part?  My body and my brain would like to offer their answers.  In just the last year or two, I've noticed slight declines in both areas.  Let's start with my 40-year-young body.  For one, I've decided that sitting down to shave my legs is, well, er, more comfy.  The stiff, achy back that greets me as I wake in the morning has been more and more unforgiving.  My eyes inevitably cause a reverse-whiplash when the kiddos shove something in my face and say look, Mommy!  And let's just say that painting my toenails is not as easy as it used to be anymore.  

Now onto the brain.  It is definitely slowing down.  I've always been very good with faces and names, numbers and dates.  That is no longer a truth since it might take me more than a day to remember a name or a face, and I may or may not miss a digit or five in a telephone number these days.  When I am writing and I need that perfect word but cannot think of it to save my own life?  I text DH and he tells me so my day can go on again instead of freezing mid-sentence like I have word constipation. 

On Saturday, I wanted to wear my new Toms wedges to the musical, as I had just received them as a birthday gift.  I remember pining over a classmate's espadrilles when I was in second grade.  Well, 32 years later, I got my own first pair.  They fit perfectly.  They were so comfy out of the box.  They made me look tall, dressed up but not too glammy, and I was in love.  Until I had to walk around the streets of downtown before the musical.  Oh. My. Goodness.  My 40-year-young legs were so out of heels-shape.  I discovered muscles I didn't know I had because they were in so much pain.  But a gal's gotta do what a gal's gotta do: suck it up cuz it looks good.  

During the musical, which was indeed hysterical in an over-the-top way, I found myself "getting" what was funny, oh, about 20 seconds after the audience stopped laughing.  No one saw my deer-in-headlights look except for DH who had to lean over and explain what had just happened.  A couple of times.  And by then I had missed out on the [allotted] time to laugh.  And when I did "get it" and laugh at the appropriate times?  Wow, that was SO FUNNY! 

Which brings me to my agenda as a part of my new club.  In my last one, The 30s Club, I built a foundation to be a Mother.  I'm not sure what I'll get out of this current one, but I am going in ready to combat those few signs of aging.  I am going to bring out-of-shape back into, er, shape.  I need to exercise my body and my brain.  

People make New Year resolutions to get into shape and exercise.  Well, this is not a New Year resolution for me, but a New Decade resolution.  Sounds way more momentous, right?  I'm putting regular exercise of the body and brain back into my life.  Cue downloading exercise/fitness and brain training games apps onto my phone.  (Don't judge--unless you're already in my new club.)  Because when I look around me and see the peeps that are making my life happy, I know that I want to be there with them for as long as I can, in top brain shape. 

Other than this horrible cold that decided to join my birthday party, turning 40 hasn't been bad at all.  It probably helps that I'm the last one of my bunch to do so, but I've "turned," no less.  And all joking aside, being 40 is just another day in this good life of mine.  If I judge admittance into The 40s Club by what I've accomplished in life so far, then I am definitely feeling pretty grateful and blessed. 

Maybe even proud and deliriously content. 

So, Dear 40s Club, I am glad to finally be here with all my friends as well as DH.  I look forward to what you will have in store for me.  Yesterday, a friend wished me "wisdom, security, and healing" in the next decade.  I'd like nothing more. 

(Now if you'll excuse me, I need to go blow my nose.)

Sincerely,
Me


20 comments:

  1. Sandra, happy big birthday! You look like still in your 30s. And no matter which club we are at, feeling loved and happy like you is the key to enjoy life. Although l am still years away to join your club, I have been feeling all these kinds of feelings described in your article already, including the terrible cold right now. lol

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    1. Muxiang, thank you so much for your birthday wishes! Sorry to hear that you are down with a cold, too. This weather has just been too crazy! You have many years before joining my club, so enjoy your youth *now*. I can assure you that there is so much to look forward to.

      I am so glad that you stopped by and made your debut comment--I really appreciate your readership! :)

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  2. Happy Birthday Sandra!! I am glad your cold didn't hinder your celebrations at all. I hope you have a wonderful year, and decade!!
    <3

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    1. Rachael, thank you so very much! That you continue to visit around here and leave me nice wishes is such a treasured birthday gift from you. Hope you (and your sister) are doing well!

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    2. Thank you, I don't comment as much as I used to/want to, but I try to keep up with both of your pages. :)

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    3. That really means a whole lot to me, Rachael! Really! :)

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  3. Let's start with HAPPY BIRTHDAY! And, almost as important, I loved loved loved this post. I'm following your footsteps into da Club in December. And, I echo pretty much everything you said here. Well, except for your response to The Book of Mormon. While I *got* most of the funny parts in a timely manner, I didn't think they were hilarious. Unlike my husband, who was slapping his knee and rocking back and forth with laughter the entire show. (Though, I did find it funny and entertaining - just not quite to the degree others did.)

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    1. Awww, thanks, Nilsa! I'm so glad that you liked and can relate to this post. I'll be standing by the door to welcome you to The Club in December!

      As for The Book of Mormon, I'm tickled that you watched it so we have another thing in common. I can totally see how this musical can offend people. And while I wasn't offended, it was so over-the-top that some of it just didn't come off *that* funny. I enjoyed it and am glad I saw it, though. I guess I do like the message at the end, as well as the raw talent of the cast and writers. I'm happy that your hubs loved it! I was so confused about Sal Tlay Ka Siti, because it sounded so familiar, yet so strange. That one took me a long time... ahem. As did the x-ray (don't laugh at me, please!) :)

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  4. Aw, hope you're feeling better! Here's a tissue and some vitamin C. Glad you got to enjoy some fun before you hit the couch. I think having a decade resolution sounds awesome! Just think, starting NOW to the road of healthy and exercise will be so much easier than if you decided to do it later. Maintain maintain maintain!!! Go girl!!

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    1. Thanks, Lisa! I think I went through about an entire box of tissues already! I think even my couch felt sorry for me--can't believe I took *two* naps yesterday! DS played by himself and went to the fridge twice looking for a snack, and I was too out of it to get up to prep some fruit for him--poor guy!

      As for resolutions, better now than later, and better late than never, right? I have a certain goal in mind, and I'm pretty sure I'll keep to it. My goal is not to lose weight, but rather get heart-healthier, so any bit I do will be good. Some nicer abs would be nice, too... Thanks!

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  5. Love the shoes and hope you are feeling better. Happy, happy birthday!!! :)

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    1. Though not 100% yet, I am feeling better today! Colds in warmer weather just doesn't make much sense, does it? Thank you so much for the birthday wish, Susi! Go try on some of these Toms wedges yourself!

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  6. Aww happy birthday to you. What was the bistro? A good one you'd recommend? Friends and I are debating where to go for our quarterly girls night out coming up.

    And those shoes? LOVE them. In fact, I want them! They look great.

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    1. L'Eiffel Bistro at The Arboretum! Lovely little place--been there twice. I do recommend! Look it up!

      Toms Calypso Wedges. Try them on at Nordstrom! Go, go, go! And thanks for the birthday wish, Michelle!

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  7. I'm glad you're okay with joining the 40s club (I'm a little apprehensive myself, but it's gonna happen whether I'm willing or not :))

    I can relate to the shoe thing. A couple years ago, my work went to year-round casual, so I break out my heels (dressy shoes) the required 2-3 times a year. That's it. Well, last time I had to dress up, I picked this awesome pair of Liz Claiborne black shoes that were always comfortable...they killed my feet. I threw them away when I got home (soles were too worn to donate - that's how much I adored them.)

    I'm sorry your cold turned into a party crasher, but at least you managed to pull through the celebrations. I hope you are able to get some rest and get well so you can start working on your decade goals!

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    1. Hi, Janna! I really am okay with this, but perhaps because I'm the last of "my bunch" and I'm still gloating about that?

      That's the thing about nice shoes: when are the occasions for them at our age? Once-in-a-blue-moon work event and rarer-than-that date nights? I hope to wear the heels before I forget how to walk in them again! Sorry you had to toss your beloved black heels!! Get some new and comfy ones?

      I have started on my decade goal, and so far so good. Taking baby steps so I won't hurt myself. I've done that once too many times. Thanks for the well wishes!!

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  8. Sandra, Happy Birthday!!!! Sorry to hear you're under the weather but as you said, at least you got your celebrating in.
    1. Love the shoes. Hear you about the muscles - I haven't worn heals in years, either.
    2. I hear your list and I feel your list. I could have made it myself and it would be exactly like yours. I turn 40 next January, so I'm almost in your club.
    3. I am with you on the brain/body refresher (? what is that word when you bring in your car for an overhaul/refresher? totally not kidding here). Need to get the self tuned up (that's the dang word! gosh, that hurt my brain)before I really start falling apart. My family needs me like yours needs you.

    Happy Birthday, my friend. I hope this year brings you all sorts of amazing new discoveries and adventures. As my grandma used to say, (read in your best old Italian grandma voice) "I wish you love, luck and health this coming year."

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    1. Thank you, thank you, thank you, Cindy! I treasure the "love, luck, and health" for this year (and the next ten)! I think there will be lots of new adventures--probably things I would never expect. It does feel like a new chapter in life. The motherhood will always be there, but there will be other-hoods to add to the bunch. I am glad to be discovering them together with you, once you join my club next year! :)

      The thing about these espadrilles? I realized that the bottoms don't bend. It's a whole new experience to walk in heels like these. Like I said, first pair of wedges ever. Needs LOTS of training still. Also, it's so nice for you to let me know that I'm not alone in this "muddy" place inside my head. When I read your #3, I thought the exact same thing as you wrote, so thankfully you came through with the word, or I'd have been stuck on that all day long! I think the brain games are really supposed to help. Never ever thought I needed them only a short few years ago. Sad?

      I really appreciate our conversations here, Cindy! Thanks so much for reading and all your words of love. :)

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  9. I think 40 is a good time in your life, when you know yourself and can be confident in who you are. Happy Birthday!

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    1. You are absolutely right--it is a time where one gets more comfortable with Self. Thank you so much for the birthday wish! I can't wait to meet you in person in July! :)

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