Thursday, November 28, 2013

Dear Tresses


Dear Tresses,

You are hair today, gone tomorrow.

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I just cut off 12+ inches of my hair.

Snip, snip.  All gone.

And now I ask myself, why didn't I do this earlier?


Why I didn't do this earlier:
  • I am cheap.  It pains me to have to spend money on my hair.  The reason I had long, flowing, healthy hair was not because I thought it was beautiful or womanly.  Not cutting it was saving money.  I was saving money by not having short hair, which requires frequent trimming.  (Says the person who incessantly buys hair clips and rubber bands to tie up said hair.)
  • I am lazy.  I don't like spending time on my hair.  Having long hair means one of two things: ponytail or bun.  Time it takes me to get ready in the morning: about 60 seconds.
  • I don't like putting hair products in my hair.  Short hair often requires some sort of styling product of the sticky or waxy sort, which challenges my tactile sensory hypersensitivity.  Ewwwww.

What finally made me chop it all off:
  • The amount of hair I pick up off the bathroom floor and shower drain daily should have been enough reason for me to do it last year.  Between Dear Daughter and myself, we could have made wigs from fallen hair alone.
  • The realization that the beautiful, shiny, long, black hair on my head is only beautiful, shiny, and long for the mere 3 minutes I am in front of the mirror in the morning.  After which, it is only in a hair-clipped bun, lest I want it to 1) always be caught under my shoulder bag strap, 2) perform anti-gravity electrostatic tricks, or 3) be in a ridiculous race with any foods ready to enter my mouth.  
  • I realized that I had the opportunity to donate my hair to help people who are less fortunate to have a head of healthy hair.  

The last reason was what sealed the deal for me.  I didn't want to go just a little shorter and waste a chance to donate some serious hair.  And I really was ready for a change.  

I found--through a friend--a salon that gives free haircuts for hair donations!  At the salon, I asked for a bob at the jawline with a little shaping in the back.  The hairstylist knew exactly what I wanted and went to work.  She first rubberbanded four sections of my hair and braided them.  




Then I started to cry.  

Out of one eye.  

No, I wasn't getting cold feet.  Something fell into my eye, and if you wear gas permeable contact lenses like I do, you'd know of that glass-shards-in-your-eye feel.  Anyway, after about forty snips, they were all gone.  (It was amazing how much work went into cutting off one braid!)




I wish I could give myself more credit for donating my hair, but the truth is, I got out of it a great haircut and a really needed change.  I love my new do.  I feel so much lighter.  And about the lazy part of me?  Well, now it takes about a quarter of the time to blow dry my hair, so a little styling time is no biggie.  I'm still working on the styling products issue, but we're very careful about taking baby steps.  




I don't know what will happen to my braids, but I hope that they will one day dangle over a pair of ears and brush her neck like her own hair would have.  Or tussle in a gentle breeze above his crown like his own hair could have.  I am lucky to have been able to so easily give something needed by others.  

Yes, I really am the lucky one.

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So, Dear Tresses, I forgot to mention one more reason why I didn't chop you off sooner: people with short hair wake up with bedhead.  

Ask me how I know.


Sincerely,
Me

14 comments:

  1. Sandra, we may not look anything alike but we could be soul twins!! I have donated my hair twice. I like it short after many years of it long but now I'm growing it out to donate it again. Your hair is beautiful both long & short! Glad you took the plunge & got it cut short. I hope someone will enjoy it fully. :) I wrote a post about it in Aug. '12 called Happy Hair Day. I hate paying for haircuts too!

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    1. Chrisor! I'm so there with you! I like it short after many years of long tresses, and it was really wonderful to be able to donate my hair. I will definitely go read your post on your hair donation (sorry for the late reply--we've been on the road after Thanksgiving and are now on vacation!). Thanks for stopping by, Soul Twin! :)

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  2. So impressed with your patience!! What if Beyonce got your hair? LOL I wish I could shave my hair off sometimes especially when cleaning the drain!!

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    1. Haha, Helen, it wasn't patience so much as laziness! I was too lazy and cheap to go get my hair cut. Now that it's short, I can't imagine why I put up with all that hair all that time!! You'd look great with short hair, too! Thanks, Friend!

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  3. I love your hair!!
    By the way, I don't remember your hair being that long at Blogher.
    So either I was really really drunk or you had it up?
    I love short hair.
    It just works.

    :)

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    1. Thanks, Kari! You remembered correctly: my hair was up at BlogHer, like it's up EVERY.SINGLE.DAY. Now my scalp isn't screaming pain all the time. I love it, too, and I see myself going even shorter! There's so much that can be done, hehehe... I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving. Now, onto December... Thank you for reading!

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  4. I used to not cut my hair often for the same reason, I am cheap! I have wavy frizzy hair and I tried so many stylists and none did a decent job, and they charge a fortune here. One day I realized that I look so bad with my hair long, it just adds 10 years to my face. I now cut it often, it looks healthier and it makes me feel so much younger. I found a great guy who does wonder on my hair and it cost $20 less than the rest, only problem...I have to go to the city.

    You look great with your short hair, and how great that someone will be able to have real hair in her wig. Win-win situations are the best.

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    1. Hi, Laura, I wanted to do something different with my hair when I turned the big 40 back in May. I considered bangs, but my heart wasn't fully sure about that change. Ironically, when I decided to cut, I was more sure about this drastic change than anything else. I totally agree with the years on the long hair. I'd like to think I shaved off a few years with all that hair! Thank you for the kind words, and for stopping by, Laura!

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  5. Good for you for finding the courage to make the leap! (I did the same thing at the beginning of the year and have kept it short since then.) It feels great to be able to donate our unneeded hair. And, I love the new look. I have a similar cut, but it looks so different curly...I wish I had your straight hair!

    Oh, and about the gas permeable lenses - I totally get it. I used to wear them in high school and college, but quit wearing them after several instances of scratched corneas. Now I'm super lazy and stick with glasses :)

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    1. Janna, I remember your haircut earlier this year! I think it takes off so much of the unnecessary weight--it's so nice to feel lighter! Funny thing is, I have very straight hair when it's long, but now that it's short, I find my hair very curly at the nape of the neck where it's shortest. Which makes me wonder if I got a pixie cut, would I have curly hair? ;-) BTW, I wear contacts because my glasses are way too thick--too heavy even in super thin lenses! Thanks for reading, Janna, and I hope you had a great Thanksgiving break!

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  6. You DID get a great haircut and also did a wonderful thing for someone who needs the hair. Glad you didn't get emotional over your hair...it's just hair, right? Will you keep it short? Maintain it with trims? I confess that I like my hair short because my hair gets wonky at longer lengths. But then I don't get it regularly trimmed. My dogs get haircuts more frequently than I do...AND their cuts are more expensive, haha. Anyways, while pregnant with O, I did something out of character and let my hair grow. And when I was done being pregnant, I noticed that my hair had thinned out and was falling out all over the place (it never fell out during pregnancy). Anyways, now I have not short/not long hair after a trim. Not sure what I want to do with it next.

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    1. Hi, Lisa, sorry for the late reply! People ask me if I miss my hair. I don't, not one single bit. I wear a scarf often to keep my neck warm, but I don't miss the long hair at all. I'm keeping it short and may even go shorter. I hope you do something exciting, if you opt to have a change! Like you said, hair is hair. It grows back, but the excitement of a nice change is priceless! Thanks for reading!

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  7. I love the before and after photos ... and the sentiment behind cutting your hair for someone who needs it. You have a big heart!

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    1. Thank you, Nilsa! I wish I had known about this earlier, since I've done this sort of big cuts many times in my life. I may try to talk DD into it next time--she seems a little bit tempted. :)

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