tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post6705161205985985789..comments2023-10-14T06:27:48.975-05:00Comments on Letters of Muse: Dear Parent-WhenSandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-24274656940796698652013-05-06T10:47:40.131-05:002013-05-06T10:47:40.131-05:00Thanks for relating to my list! 5 and 3 are the n...Thanks for relating to my list! 5 and 3 are the not-so-glamorous Parent-Whens, but definite ones nevertheless. My upbringing was very different from my own kiddos', so I cannot really comment on seeing any parallels. But when you do, it is quite humbling, isn't it? <br /><br />Thanks for your visit! I always appreciate your thoughts, Imdelda!Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-61293572598184809152013-05-06T10:42:18.456-05:002013-05-06T10:42:18.456-05:00Hi, Lisa! #10 was at its worst when I was preggo ...Hi, Lisa! #10 was at its worst when I was preggo with DS and DD had, um, some gastrointestinal issues. Oy. Glad your gag reflex left you!! <br /><br />Your Parent-Whens: it is just hard to keep a good balance on yummy/bad foods and ordinary/healthy foods. I like to indulge in a gourmet burger a few times a year myself! Of course, we try to keep the kiddos' diet on the healthy side at home, so when we go out, they get to indulge a little bit, too. I love that FOOD is always a huge part of our lives, parenting or not! Hehe!<br /><br />Thanks, Lisa!Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-62714741812554292702013-05-03T21:32:40.976-05:002013-05-03T21:32:40.976-05:00Spot-on, Sandra. I don't think I have anythin...Spot-on, Sandra. I don't think I have anything more to add to your list. I especially identify with nos. 5 and 3, though all the rest are also very real to me. <br /><br />Aw, here is one thing I can add - I knew I was a parent when I realized the trouble my parents went through to raise me. It always crosses my mind whenever I have to deal with stubbornness and scenes with my own parents lamenting my own willfulness flash back so clearly.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-33326533835792145142013-05-02T14:01:23.898-05:002013-05-02T14:01:23.898-05:00#10 I started not caring about handling others'...#10 I started not caring about handling others' bodily functions when we got our dog & she got diarrhea or vomit on the carpet, and on herself too. Of course, when J does it, I try not to breathe, but still, I gotta do it. Miraculously, the gag reflex I used to have SO BAD just went away.<br /><br />#9 Been there. French fries, gone. Dessert, gone. It's ok. I've had a lifetime of those things. He's just experiencing them now.<br /><br />#6 Constant battle in my head. "It's ok he's spending THIS weekend entirely in front of the TV because last weekend, we spent most of the time outside." Like that. All the time.<br /><br />#3 Yep, I can't stand to watch kids suffer or be hungry or be abused. I hurt for parents who've lost their children.<br /><br />#1 You're right, parenting doesn't get easier necessarily. It just gets different. <br /><br />My parent-when is you realize how bad food is at restaurants. I remember taking J out to restaurants and the only thing on the kid menu was chicken tenders, pizza, and hot dogs. I was mad. Where were the veggies and fruit? And real food? I used to just share whatever I ordered with him. But then I never got to eat what I wanted, like the bad food ;) and spicy food.<br /><br /><br />Which brings me to my second parent-when. It's when you realize you're a hypocrite and cave-in to the kid's menu. When I go out to eat, I eat badly because the other 90% of the time, I eat pretty healthy at home! I want to indulge in a burger and fries and maybe a milkshake too. Why should I deny those things to J? And I realized also the reason that those items are on the menu is because they are easy for a kid to eat by themselves. I don't want to spend my evening out cutting up food and making sure he doesn't spill messy food everywhere, like I do at home! So, we order off the kids menu more often than not now. Oh, how silly I was! Hehe.lisacnghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08404184287815243972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-51504002139354058022013-04-30T23:16:11.745-05:002013-04-30T23:16:11.745-05:00Hi, Janna! No, I don't always share, either! ...Hi, Janna! No, I don't always share, either! I have my nighttime stashes right in my nightstand, shhh! Thanks for stopping by and reading--I'm glad you can relate to these. :)Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-55351614986768965062013-04-30T01:45:15.473-05:002013-04-30T01:45:15.473-05:00You're so nice to share your food with your ki...You're so nice to share your food with your kids. I'm selfish...I've hidden the cookies and waited til they went to bed to eat them :)<br /><br />Great list - I can relate to these. My brain isn't working, so I don't have anything to add, though!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-81847836045673047282013-04-29T10:54:15.185-05:002013-04-29T10:54:15.185-05:00Oh, yes... Then that's the day when I gorge o...Oh, yes... Then that's the day when I gorge on them after the kiddos go to bed. Mmmmm, cookies! Thanks, Asianmommy!Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-7959937492696000812013-04-29T10:53:18.330-05:002013-04-29T10:53:18.330-05:00Laura, I think being parents change our perspectiv...Laura, I think being parents change our perspectives so much! Back then, I didn't have those scary thoughts when I was nursing my newborns; maybe I was just trying to get through the day, but now... it's on my mind so often! I remember shoving my babies at DH when he got home cuz I was so exhausted, and I wanted to go hide in a closet. <br /><br />I'm sure your teenagers want you to be a part of their lives, and that you love the same as well. It's just a whole other set of parenting challenges, right? I'll get there soon enough... We are all being the best moms we can be! Thanks so much for stopping by! Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-84236283386750797672013-04-29T10:45:25.575-05:002013-04-29T10:45:25.575-05:00That's a great one, and I can totally relate t...That's a great one, and I can totally relate to it, Nilsa! Those few moments of alone time with a spouse can be so precious. Date night anytime soon?Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-3773736154281353012013-04-27T14:19:10.282-05:002013-04-27T14:19:10.282-05:00Haha! I can totally get that moment when you real...Haha! I can totally get that moment when you really want to eat those cookies, but you let your kids have them instead.Asianmommyhttp://asianmommy.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-22075599273615742542013-04-26T17:51:09.764-05:002013-04-26T17:51:09.764-05:00Good ones...I was just thinking about number 3, wh...Good ones...I was just thinking about number 3, when any child hurts you feel a pang in your heart.<br /><br />You know that you are a parent when you are nursing your sweet newborn and start bursting into tears thinking about all the future hurts he/she might get. You then think, what was I thinking when I decided to create a whole new being? How selfish and arrogant of me....<br /><br />You know that you are a parent when you are so exhausted that you want to hurt your newborn but instead hit a pillow.<br /><br />I love being a parent to my teens now, despite the daily challenges. I just realized that they still want me in their life despite what they might say or show.<br /><br />Trying to be the best mother I can....<br /><br />Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15305773287880023217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-69582671336647871312013-04-26T14:27:02.130-05:002013-04-26T14:27:02.130-05:00You know you're a parent when you spend more h...You know you're a parent when you spend more hours each night with someone other than your spouse - and you're not cheating on him.Nilsa @ SoMi Speakshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08474642034399063234noreply@blogger.com