tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post6889328723055479536..comments2023-10-14T06:27:48.975-05:00Comments on Letters of Muse: Dear Real WorldSandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-4276366663616554412012-04-08T10:55:03.293-05:002012-04-08T10:55:03.293-05:00Laura, I like your tree analogy, and you are addre...Laura, I like your tree analogy, and you are addressing exactly the next part of this... the part when the kiddos DO feel adversity, and how they will react to it. I completely agree with you, and you are very smart and strong to hold back from fixing things. While I know that's what's right to do, it won't be what my heart wants to do -- especially while seeing your children suffer -- but it's a challenge we parents must all face. I hope I will have that willpower when time comes. <br /><br />I do think it's important to show emotional support, though, when they're down, offer help if they ask for it, and be there for them to answer questions. But to actively do something to "fix" things "for" them is a different story. I'll certainly be looking to you when I have to cross those bridges down the line! Thanks for your comments, and Happy Easter to you, too!Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-20830378557808753512012-04-08T09:44:27.673-05:002012-04-08T09:44:27.673-05:00Sandra,
one thing that I learned and it was so har...Sandra,<br />one thing that I learned and it was so hard for me to let go is that we can't and shouldn't fix it for our children. All those moments are learning opportunities for us to teach them certain lessons and ethics. It has become quite apparent for me now that my daughter is in middle school and is trying to navigate the teenage years. As much as I want to call the ex-friend mom to see if I can patch it up, I need to stay out of the way.<br /><br />I have a friend who always knows what to say and she is the one who told me that as hard as it is to see my children suffer, it is part of life, a way to learn that they are going to be okay, not matter how it hurts at the moment. Running to their rescue only creates children that won't be able to deal with the pain and disappointments life will bring them. I see them as little tree, if you stake them too long, the trunk will never get strong enough to survive a very big storm, trees need to sway with the wind to build strong trunks. Doesn't it sound totally true for our children too?<br /><br />Happy Easter!Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15305773287880023217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-63600819134578803262012-04-06T23:36:19.717-05:002012-04-06T23:36:19.717-05:00Yes, I agree. That is how I feel, too. I just had ...Yes, I agree. That is how I feel, too. I just had to get out some steam about the injustice of it all. Like when DS was younger, and I watched him get pushed out of line by a girl. He just looked at her, and didn't do anything. It's hard for parents to watch their kids get pushed around like that. I'm pretty sure I know my kiddos' personalities and how they will fare in the Real World. You gotta just keep hoping for the best, right? =)Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-69661629617187814202012-04-06T23:30:34.970-05:002012-04-06T23:30:34.970-05:00Oh, Helen, you are hilarious. I hear you about bei...Oh, Helen, you are hilarious. I hear you about being tired! Will we ever have energy again? I sure do hope that my kiddos have a center to navigate them. I can relate to how you grew up; mine was very similar... Isn't it amazing that we turned out okay? That does give me hope for my kiddos. =)Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-4335007057922095242012-04-06T22:10:08.491-05:002012-04-06T22:10:08.491-05:00It's really hard when there are all those shad...It's really hard when there are all those shades of grey, isn't it? I'd rather know right from wrong and then judge later where I bend that than be the one bending and pushing constantly and not having any awareness of - or care for - those around me. And you know what... if my kids are ok and HAPPY taking their time and not pushing to the forefront of every situation, I'm totally good with that. They're happy; I'm happy.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07803503583347758969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-70677920528026630832012-04-06T20:15:58.349-05:002012-04-06T20:15:58.349-05:00Your kids definitely have the good end of the deal...Your kids definitely have the good end of the deal. While the world lives in turmoil, DS and DD have found their center and therefore peace. Peace during turmoil is such a gift. It's helps you think first and then act which is a quality most people do not have. <br /><br />Growing up for me was full of hurt, pain and adversity mixed with drama, fun, love and trouble. That led to an attitude and detentions, which was kind of fun but that's another story. Somewhere along the way I learned how to stay calm during craziness and it feels really good when i can manage myself! :) Sure i'm resilient but i'm tired already. I already feel like i have had a long life and i'm not even 40! <br /><br />Maybe DS knows what we all know and that is that throwing a ball at a target is an activity better suited for monkeys (like my children).HELENhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17528058080858711352noreply@blogger.com