tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post950191912673629483..comments2023-10-14T06:27:48.975-05:00Comments on Letters of Muse: Dear SubtletySandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-46449981472882906852013-08-11T21:00:07.139-05:002013-08-11T21:00:07.139-05:00Awww, thanks, Chrisor, for that kind comment! We a...Awww, thanks, Chrisor, for that kind comment! We are usually pretty in tune with one another, although the result of this sort interaction came with a lot of trials and tribulations as well. Thanks for taking a peep inside our world--I'm glad you like what you see :) !Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-43606741856304398382013-08-11T16:54:44.120-05:002013-08-11T16:54:44.120-05:00I can tell you parent with kindness and a smile ne...I can tell you parent with kindness and a smile never far from your lips. Your kids sound like they have keen powers of observation and have learned a lot by trying to interact with you and your husband in different ways. You see exactly what they are up to and genuinely enjoy all your verbal exchanges with them. Your household sounds pretty ideal to grow up in! :-) Thanks for giving me a glimpse inside your world.Chrisorhttp://almostakiss.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-58678469424617467862013-08-10T19:34:16.684-05:002013-08-10T19:34:16.684-05:00Janna, we are in tune with each other *most* of th...Janna, we are in tune with each other *most* of the time. I haven't mentioned how I made DD cry on her birthday because I wouldn't believe her when she said nothing was wrong. I made it all wrong that day. It was not my proudest moment, for sure! There are also times I forget to make it fun and jovial that I'm just a big old scrooge! But we generally try to be fun when we can. I'm so happy you enjoyed this!Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-8474525397919084242013-08-10T19:31:33.756-05:002013-08-10T19:31:33.756-05:00Interestingly, Nilsa, I grew up without this sort ...Interestingly, Nilsa, I grew up without this sort of friendly banter, so I find this--while a new experience for me--so very endearing. Maybe that's why I find myself writing about it a lot. I'm sure you will be verbally playful with Gavin, and he'll surprise you back with his wit and charm! :)Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-16849915498533286862013-08-10T00:31:53.562-05:002013-08-10T00:31:53.562-05:00I enjoyed reading this (mostly because subtlety is...I enjoyed reading this (mostly because subtlety is a lost art in our house.) I had to smile at how you toyed with your son as you went into Target. It sounds like you are pretty in tune with each other and know how to relate as a family!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-78363528038610837162013-08-09T12:23:44.393-05:002013-08-09T12:23:44.393-05:00When I think of my childhood, one of the things I ...When I think of my childhood, one of the things I absolutely loved was the verbal volleys back and forth with my parents. It taught me to think on my feet with a great dose of humor on the side. These moments with your children remind me of a similar kind of banter. I hope to instill the same in Gavin as he grows up, too.Nilsa @ SoMi Speakshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08474642034399063234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-2551322727535396022013-08-09T11:33:29.433-05:002013-08-09T11:33:29.433-05:00Rachael, I appreciate your 'likes' always!...Rachael, I appreciate your 'likes' always! I really do! <br /><br />It must be so hard for to you see your sister fight cancer. I bet writing about it will be a good source of therapy for you. I'll be by to read when you post. I do keep you both in my thoughts! Have a good weekend yourself!Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-61701855994739027222013-08-08T15:42:47.443-05:002013-08-08T15:42:47.443-05:00You're welcome for the FB activity-I'm not...You're welcome for the FB activity-I'm not great at interacting other than "liking" posts, but I try.<br /><br />My sister is doing okay. Thank you for keeping us in your thoughts! She just started a new round of chemo, this time it's a trial form of chemo delivery. I plan on blogging about her & a bunch of other stuff soon, but so far "tomorrow" has yet to arrive! :)<br /><br />Have a great weekend!Rachaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12391186958774991367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-27159236262289462082013-08-07T23:08:05.633-05:002013-08-07T23:08:05.633-05:00Hi, Imelda! I certainly understand the importance ...Hi, Imelda! I certainly understand the importance of being forthright. Being able to interpret my kids' thoughts comes from having had that talk with them: you NEED to tell me so I'll know and understand! LOL about being subtle with your husband. I've definitely had those issues, too, and I've had to just say what I want. In truth, I've experienced everything you mentioned at various times of my marriage/parenthood, so that tells you how complex our chemistry with one another can be. I am positive that you are, in your own way, artful with subtlety, and that you don't give yourself enough credit for it! In this post I just wanted to recognize the children's innocence for trying to be subtle and all the fun that follows. Thank you so much for reading and partaking in a wonderful discussion from your perspective, though you ought not be so hard on yourself! :) Much appreciate your words!Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-28067398074136069092013-08-07T22:58:34.077-05:002013-08-07T22:58:34.077-05:00Trust me, Asianmommy, they have their moments of d...Trust me, Asianmommy, they have their moments of demanding and whining! But perhaps in these instances, they have a better grip of what works and what doesn't. They are good kids, really, most of the time! Thanks for stopping by!Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-19840262397992679122013-08-07T16:15:46.249-05:002013-08-07T16:15:46.249-05:00First off - your children are funny! And so are yo...First off - your children are funny! And so are you. :-)<br /><br />Subtlety - it is a tricky art to learn. It is a combination of politeness and sensitivity to other people's needs and feelings. Having grown in a family where communication skills are missing, I try to teach my children to be fortright about what they may want or think or need, especially when they are talking to me. Their requests may not be granted, but the information will be filed in my maternal brain for reference. Hand in hand with this training on fortrightness is the training for them to be mindful of others. At their ages, they are not able to read cues well, what matters is thy get to be aware of other people's needs ad feelings. <br /><br />Meanwhile, I have long learned that being too subtle with my husband does not always work well to my advantage. I have to be clear about what I want (of course, years of being together have helped us know each other very well) but I still can't expect him to read my mind perfectly each time. (We quarrel about this inability of him to do so, actually. :-) On the other hand, I tend to read too much on what my husband says or does, I also get into 'trouble'.<br /><br />I guess, in my roundabout way, subtlety is a skill I have yet to learn. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-79198693220399905152013-08-07T15:12:53.541-05:002013-08-07T15:12:53.541-05:00Sounds to me like your kids are very well behaved....Sounds to me like your kids are very well behaved. No demands & no whining? You've taught them well!Asianmommyhttp://asianmommy.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-54478238122264234412013-08-07T11:59:40.909-05:002013-08-07T11:59:40.909-05:00Hi, Rachael! I'm so glad to add some cheerfuln...Hi, Rachael! I'm so glad to add some cheerfulness to your humpday! I also wanted to say thank you for joining me on Facebook--it doesn't tell me you did until I saw your 'likes' on my posts. BTW, I hope your sister is doing well? All my best to you both.Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187306461239093068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722828176120073793.post-58370649008890073472013-08-07T11:33:08.133-05:002013-08-07T11:33:08.133-05:00The exchange with your DH is too funny! The humor...The exchange with your DH is too funny! The humor of it brightened a somewhat dreary workday today!Rachaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12391186958774991367noreply@blogger.com